I just had to write a blog on self compassion, especially after listening to a insightful podcast (which I will provide).
When I think of ‘self compassion’ I draw towards humble, inspirational human beings such as the Dalai lama, who I just can’t get enough of.
Self, well duh refers to one. But as human beings we are so good (unless your a narcissist) of given time, money and love towards another. But why don’t we return it to oneself? Do we believe we are not worthy enough? And this is where I will tie in the podcast I recently listened to.
If you love psychology then you need to get on board with the ‘Psychology podcast’ and in particular with the link provided an interview with Dr. Kristin Neff. Dr. Neff is a world renown expert on self compassion. And I’d rather make all you peeps listen to the podcast, and not go into the detail’s but more discuss our inner critic, which we all have, but is our conscious aware?
Think of your inner critic as an annoying pain in the arse…figuratively speaking.
Your inner critic is going to demise you. It is going to self sabotage you. And it’s going to make you feel guilty. BUT! this predominately happens in the sub-conscious. Or it has already come and gone before the conscious has registered the faulty thinking. Our inner critic will also pull and draw energy. And this can be in the form of relationships and self sabotaging goals and the inability to bounce back from rejection.
So, I have turned you inside out here with self compassion and then touching on your inner critic. I’m good at taking the long road home.
I want you all to pay attention to your inner critic…what is it saying? what environment are you in?
Don’t judge it…
This is where self compassion comes in to spread it’s love and kindness.
Be kinder to yourself…
“I am really proud of you” or insert self compassion here…
Remember, ‘neurons that fire together wire together’. Neurologically biochemically speaking. The stronger the thought, the feeling, and the behavior. The more sub-conscious it becomes.
BUT! we know the brain is neuroplastic and can form, unform and reform!
If you want to know more about self compassion, and recognize, and challenge faulty thinking and behaviors. PLEASE, I encourage you to listen to the podcast or buy Dr. Neff’s book ‘Self compassion’ 2011.
Hope this was a small teaser. And you are motivated to learn more.