Mental health is a big passion of mine. Especially within the well-being of young men. Earlier in June. Men’s Health Week was used to promote all things relating to a man’s well-being. What prompted this meditation was an incident I observed at my local gym. Along with my passion for men’s health. To keep details short: a male in his early twenties was spotting on the bench press another male in his early twenties. The male whom was spotting the other male chose to use rather colorful profanity to motivate the male bench-pressing, especially when fatiguing. So what was the big deal? The use of the profanity along with homophobic suggestions took my attention greatly and was the catalyst for this meditation. It is well documented that young men are wrestling with ideology— whilst being exposed to oppressive behavior, whether this is subliminal or not. Reflecting back on the males comments: the males comments give off a vibe that is overly masculine and oppressive, whilst being demeaning to the subject. Now don’t get me wrong, or call me a bigot— some ruff and tumble play (especially with father-son) has good evidence for social skill development and security attachment according to Dr. Jordan B Peterson. However, if I may use the word ‘toxic masculinity’ then I have a problem with the aforementioned scenario. Research shows that young men from the ages 14-21 need two-three good mentors in their life along with their father. The adolescent brain is highly malleable and plastic, and the environment that the young man is exposed too is going to create an ideology of sorts, for an expectation of what it is to be a man. Young men need a safe space to feel vulnerable, to express masculinity and femininity without being degraded, or stereotyped into a classification. For example: I had no idea of the term: Spornosexual until recently. Which for the record is: a man whom is concerned with his physical appearance. Which within a healthy scope is very acceptable, and beneficial for self-esteem. However, fabricated ideas, expectations and pressures may further increase the risk of a body-dysmorphia; along with risk taking behaviors. Navigating one’s world is hard work! Being authentically true, to acknowledge the array of emotions a human feels— and most importantly: reaching out for help is a form of masculinity in my views (to which I may be wrong). Show some humility when speaking to others. And always seek to grow, learn, feel, critically evaluate, and gravitate to good male role-models.